Death isn't an escape...

No. Suicide is not a solution to any problem that you might come across in life. It doesn't matter at what point you are in life, it's just not the answer, period. 

You see, I wanted to write this piece a few weeks ago, but I couldn't make myself write. It was just too painful to think that one of my mate is no more. 

One of my classmates, a colleague, a friend committed suicide. It was a shock as I couldn't believe he would take such a drastic decision. 

But that's the thing, he didn't just end his life, he left behind a bunch of confused, hurt and shattered people who loved him a lot. 

A mother who's dreams of seeing his son grow and be successful in life was gone. 

As someone who knew him for a little more than two years, was hysteric when I heard of his passing, I cannot dare imagine what people who knew him for years and years would be going through. 

I don't judge him for taking such a decision. I don't know what he was going through, what urged or prompted him to take this step. And I don't want to judge him. 

But I wish he had reached out to someone, someone close to him to share his burden, share the pain he was feeling, someone who would guide him through the darkest phase and show him the brighter sides of life. 

I know confiding in someone is a scary business. You never know how the person is going to react, if he is going to take you seriously at all or just brush it off.

This is the reason I'm writing this whole thing. 

You never know who is at the brink, just barely getting through the days. 

So if anyone ever approaches you and wants to speak to you about something personal then listen to them, and never brush them off or simply ask them to "get over it". It might be insignificant to you but not to them.

They know they have to eventually get over it but they aren't there standing infront front of you so they can hear you say "get over it". They have approached you because they see you as a confident, someone who will listen to them and not judge them for the situation they are in. They need your support and most importantly they need to hear you say "it wasn't your fault". It might be or might not, but at that point they might need someone who will see the things the way they see it, someone who will say "it's okay" or "I'm with you".

There are so many people, youngsters and adults, who resort to suiside to get away from the darkness of the world. So let's try to be a bright spot in someone life, you never know who needs your help. You don't realize that someone is in a very fragile state until it's too late. So an act of compassion can change the perspective of the person at the recieving end. 

Be loving, be patient and most of all don't judge. After all everyone is human, they are bound to have a dark side just like the bright one.

I just want to say again that suicide is not a solution, there'll be far more better options available to get throught whatever that you might be facing. It might seem like the easy way out of the situation but what a waste it'll be if you end your life which could have been so much more than what it is if given another chance?

So give yourself another chance. Give yourself many "chances", for you deserve them and so does everyone else.

#say_no_to_suicide #stnf